What We Can’t Say To Too Many People…

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What We Can’t Say To Too Many People…

  The recent visit with a dear friend was highlighted with the phrase, “I can’t say this to too many people.” Our hearts shared openly knowing we’re on the same team, accept each other, and “get it”! Becoming aware of the life of a parent/caregiver is as important as understanding “special needs” and a way to join the team! Ready?   “I can’t say this to many people….”  

  • “I’m at my wits end.”  Rephrasing: “I need someone to talk to because life is really hard – everyday. I don’t get a break, and when I do it’s for errands, not lunch out.” We’re venting. Sharing a hug and words that show understanding, “It must be hard to juggle all the things you do on a daily basis” rather than, “Yes, my child gets crazy sometimes, too.”  Saying your child “gets crazy too” dismisses our challenges. Asking about our challenges would affirm for us that you understand-or are trying to!


  • “I want to run away.” Just for the moment. That 24/7 continual care of someone is too hard, too long, too crazy, too demanding, too EVERYTHING. We need a break. Having someone listen, helps. An occasional “lend a helping hand” opportunity – stopping over to take our child for a walk around the block for us to do something (anything) without an interruption would be a lovely kindness!


  • “This was never what I wanted to do.” We wouldn’t want you to get the wrong idea, judge or misunderstand us, but our prayer, like yours for your children, was to have a healthy child. But today, there is nothing we’d rather do because we have SO.MUCH.LOVE for our child. What we are learning, how we are growing, and the wonderful people we are meeting because of our child – we wouldn’t change a thing!


  • “I’d love to get my hair and nails done regularly, but I can barely wash my face daily!” Truth be told: we might even be a little jealous (yes, we’ll have to confess it) that you can get to do (lunch and dinner out with friends, a movie, etc.) things we can’t even consider because higher priorities demand our time. Might you invite a young mom to lunch? Pre-arranging with her husband to watch the children, and surprising her with the invitation would be a priceless!


  • “If I hear, ‘You must be a special person to have a child with special needs,’ one more time……..!” That sounds good in our heads (we’ve said it, too!), but we’re not special at all. Maybe God thought we needed a little more work and sent us our children to smooth off rough edges in our character and personality! While the process has been challenging, if God came to us and asked if we’d like our son healed, we’d probably say, “We see the beauty in the purposes You had for us. We’d love for You bless a young couple just starting out in this journey.”

  Having someone like YOU walking beside someone like us, offering a hug, cup of coffee, kind word, or a helpful hand, is like a cold drink of water to a weary traveler on this UNEXPECTED JOURNEY.   That 3 hours visit with my friend…I needed that! I think she might have, too!  

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